Tuesday, November 25, 2008
Troubles
Everyone has pains of the heart and they all handle them differently. Some close up and try to suppress it while others just let it all out hoping they will get some sort of resolution so they can move on. Does anyone know why things that happened in the long past that you have moved on from can get re lit and become just as intense if not more so than they would before? Does time truly heal all wounds or or just hide them enough so others can get a semblance of peace? How do you console someone so hurt, you can never really understand why they feel what they do even if you have been there yourself. I really don't feel that time heals wounds but just makes them worse. The only thing I have found that helps is the love and support of friends, with out that then what else is there?
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My friend, Leah, wrote this. I thought you might find it interesting.
"Time doesn't actually heal wounds or dampen joys, it sort of frosts them, as though it's gradually coating the memories with saran wrap. Enough layers later, it's harder to smell, impossible to taste, and down the road measured in decades, it's hard to feel them anymore. You still know of the event, remember it, but the blazing emotional temperature is dulled, the dramatic texture smoothed, and the picture is blurry. Under the thin, clear plastic, it's still a gaping wound or slice of heaven - it doesn't go anywhere.
The bigger the life event, the longer the exact recollection is clear- like covering a city building instead of a sandwich.
Some people don't want to let time do what it always has; they don't want the bleeding to stop. They dilligently go back to the memory every day, ripping off the strips to stare at the burns (keeping objects or listening to songs associated with the recollection). Fear. Confusion. Guilt. They let very little interrupt their depression - it busies them all the time. Everything else is a chore, or merely killing time between chores, all of which serve as an unwelcome distraction from their focus on pain."
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